The number once confidence maker is negative emotion. Once you feel it over and over again and you understand that it is nothing, once you can become comfortable with it... you will become very confident.
If you already face rejection a lot of times... you will never feel anything bad about it anymore. It will be another day for you, you will become very confident. Of course you will feel bad with your first few rejections but once you get use to it... you will never be shy to ask for what you want. You will never get intimidated with anybody. So you need to get rejected a lot of times and learn that there is nothing wrong with it. Once you get use with that negative emotion that rejection cause... you will never feel bad once you get rejected again, or maybe you will still feel bad but only very little and has no impact to your confidence.
Same as pain, once you feel the pain over and over again... you will become numb with it. Of course you will still feel it but you will never be scared of it anymore. Look at those fighters who really trained hard... they were so confident, it is because they endured a lot of painful training sessions. They become very confident because they knew they can withstand any pressure or pain.
If you feel scared... that is the signal that you must do something. That is the signal that you must act, it is a negative feeling, it will make you confident. Once you mastered moving despite of experiencing fear... you will be able to go further, you will become confident even more because you know that you will not die trying.
You can use every negative feeling to become confident. The idea here is to keep moving forward even if you have some negative emotion going on. Negative emotions are nothing but emotions, yeah it is a very uncomfortable feeling it but it also has some rewards... it can make you very confident if you embrace it whole heartedly.
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