Sometimes I am being kind too and I feel weak about myself every time I do that. If you're too kind people will abuse you, they will think that you're weak, they will think that you're too submissive. They will do anything with you and they will feel that you're not even offended.
I am not saying that you should become mean or a criminal. The idea here is don't be too soft, don't be too kind. Be assertive and always say what you want. You are letting people treat you the way they want to, it's not their fault if you're too weak and submissive.
You should be hard so people will follow you, you should be hard so that you will be able to enforce your will.
And sometimes it's not really being kind, you're just too afraid of confrontations, you're too afraid of stress. You will just speak up and that's it, if they get mad so be it.
People who always thrive are people who can express themselves. They are the ones who have no conscience when it comes to speaking out their mind. They are not afraid to hurt someone emotionally.
It's all about emotions, learn to control your emotions, learn to stay calm when there is a storm. Learn to be cool during confrontations. Never be afraid to get stressed because powerful people are not afraid to get stressed, they love it even more because they knew it will make them stronger.
And the truth is.. sometimes you want to do mean things too, sometimes you also want to look tough, you're just afraid to try it. So try it now, try being tough, try rejecting people, try being assertive. Being kind is good, it's cool but don't ever let people abuse you.
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