SAY NO TO BEING NICE

Being nice is also being weak, you think you're kind you think it's helping you but the truth is people are only bullying you, they are abusing you or sometimes even making fun of you. Being nice means cowardice, why in the hell will you allow someone to abuse you if you know you can leave? why will you let someone occupy your space if you know you can let him know that you are not ok with it? why will you let someone borrow money from you if you know the money will not come back? why will you go to a place when you know you will feel disrespected there? why will you associate yourself from people that is not raising you up? You are the one to put yourself on a position to where you can feel good, you are the one giving people the right to treat you bad, if you can retaliate or simply not afraid to leave and be alone then nobody can bully or use you. It's your life, stop being so nice because it's not a good thing, you are here to claim what is yours, you are here to live the life you want to live. 

Just do what you need to do without hurting people and without feeling guilty if someone is offended or not, you need to express yourself, you need to somehow be assertive or else you won't get what you want, you won't get what you need. Being too kind will kill you, you will always be left behind, someone will cut you in line and you will not do anything about it if you're too kind, someone will try to use you, someone will try to belittle or pull you down. There is a time for being polite and kind and there is also a time for being mean and fighting back. You need to know where your place is, you need to establish what status you want in life, do you want to become a slave or simply being yourself? It's up to you, you're the one who's letting people treat you like a garbage, if you don't want to be treated that way then never let them do it to you... as simple as that. If they got mad with your new attitude, if they feel that you're getting braver a little bit and they're attacking you so be it, don't be afraid to leave, don't be afraid to express that you don't like what is going on. You don't need a lot of friends to become happy, you only needed a few, and the truth of the matter is you can also live without them. 

Being kind will never get you to where you want to be, you have to be true to yourself. It's not that you're going to act like a savage that is uncivilized, it's not that you're going to become a barbaric or something, you just know what you want and you will never let any other people disturb your peace. You prioritize yourself first, you satisfy yourself, you groom yourself, it's about being you, it's not about being selfish... it's about being happy and free. Because being nice will only make you sad, you want some other things but you can't get it because you're so afraid to speak. Stop being nice because it's not giving you any advantage, don't be mean but don't be too passive, stop being a yes man forever.