Making excuses, being lazy, looking for reasons, looking for what is missing, delaying the work... that is also the same as being afraid. It means you don't want to try, you don't want to push you're just trying to make yourself look pretty and smart, you're just afraid of being judged that is why you are explaining yourself too much, you're protecting an identity that was not even there. You think by protecting yourself will make you safer and strong? that is the opposite, defending yourself all the time will only make you scared even more. So face the pain, take action and persevere even if it is really uncomfortable. Do the impossible, if you will not force yourself to take actions now then you will become stuck forever, your momentum will die, your confidence will go down, you will become scared for the rest of your life. If you are waiting to feel confident before you move then you will be waiting forever. Confidence doesn't mean good feelings, uncertainty or assurance. Confidence means execution and allowing yourself to fail or make mistakes without flinching or trying to explain yourself. This is not about waiting, looking for perfection and looking for safety, this is about facing the danger, embracing the discomfort and not caring if you fail or succeed, as simple as that. So forget about how you feel if you want to become confident, train yourself to move despite of chaos and adversity, train yourself to fall in love with pressure and still act calm despite of feeling bad. It is what it is, you need to embrace what you hate for it to have no power over you. You have to do what is needed and stop acting like you will die when you move or try something. It's too simple, just fight and compete, stop being sensitive, stop being a pussy and just do whatever you want to do no matter what. Confidence is not about feelings, it is about willpower and enforcing your belief system into something that has pressure and risk. Actually there is no risk here, you're going to die one day and nobody will remember you so what is it to be afraid of? Legacy is nothing, self image is a lie, anybody can think about you no matter how good or kind you are, anybody can judge you. You are not immune to hate. There is nothing to lose here because you can never sustain what you can accomplish, you can never hold on to it forever, all you can do is become the best version of yourself now and stop caring about how you feel. If you want to become confident learn how to expose yourself to difficult situations and do whatever is it that you don't like but will make you stronger and better. Every failure, fear, embarrassment, critics and rejection will make you stronger if you face it and embrace it like a real man.
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